From the appearance of the desire to take revenge, even the most good -natured person is not safe. The guilt of everything is a strong resentment inflicted on a person, which causes strong anger.
How to deal with the desire to take revenge
But before going into battle and punishing the offender, think about what exactly will give you revenge and whether it is worth taking revenge at all. After all, quite often revenge does not bring the desired satisfaction and joy.
Understand the situation
Revenge will not bring you anything positive and good. If you expect that you enjoy after taking revenge and causing harm and pain to a person who offended you, then you are mistaken. You may feel some kind of joy, but it will not be long. And then disappointment, emptiness and bitterness will come. Perhaps you will give up your revenge if you try to look at the situation from the other side. Of course, to justify a person who deliberately hurt you. But maybe you just didn’t understand this situation until the end. Quite often people interpret the actions of other people not right at all. Calm down and try to objectively understand the situation. The fact is that the person who offended you could do this not intentionally, but accidentally. Surely and you at least once fell into a situation when you did not want to offend someone, but it happened.
How to deal with the desire to take revenge
A person can also have his own motive to cause you evil. And then this is a clash of your interests. And in such a situation, it is not always possible to demand some fair solution. All because if you begin to take revenge on the offender, you can untie a real war between you. And this unlikely can bring you both good. Try to forgive your offender. And do it first of all for yourself. All because because of negative emotions, you make worse first of all to yourself. Due to the fact that you are angry with the mood to deteriorate with you and spoil your nerves just as yourself, while your offender does not feel any discomfort from this. A person who caused you pain should not be your attention and your emotions, and you should remember this.
Talk
If you have such an opportunity, then try to talk with the person who offended you. Find out with him a relationship, but do it calmly, without arranging a scandal and without switching to a scream. Tell him what exactly you think, he was wrong. Be patient to listen to the point of view of your offender. Do not interrupt him trying to prove your truth. It is possible that the result of your conversation will be a compromise. Perhaps your offender apologize to you. But this is much more pleasant than to cause pain in response. If you meet with the offender, there is no possibility. Or you just don’t want to do this, then talk to a loved one. You should talk. It is the support of a loved one who can help you get rid of the desire of revenge. All because sometimes the recognition of one’s right to close person is the opinion of which it is important for you, enough to calm down and refuse revenge.
Distract
Sometimes a conversation with someone is not enough. And then in order for thoughts about revenge to visit you you just need to be distracted.
How to deal with the desire to take revenge
Just let go of the current situation, and try to pay attention to something else, for example, find some useful activity for yourself. Generally helps to get rid of negative emotions and thoughts. So send to the gym and go in for sports. It may just be classes on a treadmill, dancing, boxing, yoga and so on. In addition, you will add positive emotions to frequent and long walks in the fresh air.
